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Introvert | Extrovert | Ambivert…
Something you may not know about me ????????♀️
Over the past few weeks I’ve had the pleasure of going to some parties that were not my own and mixing with people at various events who I don’t know.
Now, me and parties don’t really get along (unless it’s my party, which is a different story, naturally).
It’s not because I’m a bitch
It’s not because I’m a snob.
It’s not because I don’t like the people who are there…
It’s not because I don’t care.
It’s because of 2 things:
1) I suffer from pretty high levels of social anxiety when I’m with people at said parties or being with people I don’t know. (note: this is about things not do with my work events, etc. This purely social type situations). I honestly find it incredibly hard too talk with people that I don’t really know. I don’t have questions planned out in my head, ready to ask… annnnd when put on the spot, everything in my brain goes quiet and my face reflects that. Stunned Mullet… looking like a dickhead.
2) I find as I learn more about me, get even more self-aware, the more I realise that I have a HUGE introverted side to me. Which I used to think was a terribly bad thing. I thought that to be ‘successful’ at anything, one needed to be supremely extroverted. Bahhh bum. Wrong, Nicola.
Now some of you may find this amusing, confronting, educational or just plain bullshit… given that I am the kind of person who is ‘out there’ much of the time as far as you can tell.
Now, the misnomer is that introverts aren’t confident people. That the like to hide behind their keyboards or in their own rooms or just generally be like a hermit crab and not see the light of day…
THAT IS THE BULLSHIT, right there! ???? ????????♀️
No. Introverts are people who like to re-energise on their own. Extroverts gain energy from others.
Introverts know (or get to know) their limits with groups of people and know when it is that they need to leave.
This might not seem too earth shattering to you, but for me, I used to have so much of my identity wrapped up in being the extrovert, being the life of the party, being the person who is always up up and away. Chatty and vivacious…
These days, though, the thought of having to make small talk, talking about things I don’t care about with people I don’t know is like torture. Inset blank face while the inside of me is paddling like the legs of a duck under the water trying to come up with something witty and intelligent to say other than “So, what do you do?” or “How has work been” or something else that nobody really wants to have a conversation about!
Odd, isn’t it? Considering I literally make a living by turning up LIVE, on camera, every single day. In inboxes every day. Talking every day…
Being an ambivert is a bit like having a split personality.
For me, it’s where I can get my extrovert out in certain situations… but then in when I’m done with the people, I am really done. And it can look a little abrupt to those that you’re leaving behind, but… it just needs to be done. Because it feels almost crushing to stay a moment longer. Anxiety can kick in and things go downhill from there. This, is my understanding of a how an ambivert is.
The good news for YOU, is that if you’re naturally an introvert or an extrovert or an ambivert, you’re going to be FINE on social media!
Why? Because you get to do you, in your way, in your time, the way YOU want.
The reason I wanted to share this with you today, is because I want to remind you that however you are, however you identify (if you choose to identify with labels at all!!) is that it’s ok.
That you can still get out there.
That you can still market.
That you can still be seen.
That you can be VISIBLE.
That you can do the things that you need to do, that you’re drawn to doing…
Like being on stage.
Like being in the media.
Like being on television.
Like being on LIVESTREAMS.
Like being an author.
Like sharing your thoughts.
Like talking to people all over the world.
Like running events.
Like being the fucking SHINING BEACON OF LIGHT and hope and fulfillment for your people.
Like demonstrating the Holy Grail Life to your audience.
Because no matter how you are, who you are, what you do or what you love, you can do business, messaging, marketing and everything that comes along with that in your way.
So that you are the lighthouse.
So that you stand out.
So that people hear your voice…
Hear your message and resonate with it so freaking hard that they can’t ignore you for a moment longer.
SO that they have to listen to every single thing that you share out there.
You become the magnet for THEM.
The ultimate, hot coal clients (the ones you’d walk over hot coals for and them and them alone) are drawn to you…
Magnetised to you…
Like a moth to a flame.
Twin flame to twin flame.
They see you and sometimes they won’t even be able to put a finger on what ‘IT’ is or why ‘IT’ is so appealing to them… but it is.
You are.
When you allow it.
When you embrace it.
When you use it.
When you ARE. IT.
So I don’t want to hear things like “I couldn’t do that” or “I’m not as confident as you” or “I just don’t know that people would be like that with me”.
BUUUULLLLLL SHIT.
They will.
They do.
They are.
They’re all waiting on you to show up.
Like fully show up.
Introvert and all.
Extrovert and all.
Silly.
Crazy.
Messy.
Nutty.
Quiet.
Subdued.
On for a while and then off.
Energised and then re-energised.
Vivacious and calm.
Centred and tornadoed.
All of you.
All the parts.
Whether it’s socially acceptable or not.
Kind of like how your friends love you.
For WHO you are, not how you are in every moment.
For WHO you are at your core.
Those friends who GET YOU.
Who don’t hate on you for not being the life of the party when you’re not feeling it.
Who know who you are at the deepest of levels and trust that you know yourself better than anyone.
Those friends who KNOW that you always make the right decisions.
That ‘get’ the anxiety and appreciate that you turn up anyway.
For them.
And then love you harder for all the facets that they know about you.
What if…
What if your hot coal clients were the same?
Because they realised that IT’S OKAY TO BE THEM, because you’re showing them that.
Leading from the front.
Walking through the flames thrown out of the mouths’ of the dragons like on GOT last night!
Wielding that sword and fighting through the ‘normality’ and the ‘conformity’ and the pedestrian…
By being you.
You’ve got this, babe.
Truly you have.
Time for the world to see YOU shine.
Nicola xx
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You’re amazing.
Time for the rest of the world to finally get on fucking board with that.
Loves xx