I remember a question being posed to the group at an event I was at “Who do you need to be or become in order to create what you want?”
I got stuck with that question.
Who do I need to BE?
WELL.
The old me was very much “Who do I need to BE?! Ha! I just need to do”
What do I need to DO in order to SCALE?
What do I need to learn?
HOW do I need to be?
These are the questions I would ask myself. That’s all that seemed to move the needle for me.
Who do I need to BE or BECOME? Well, screw you! I’m just going to be ME.
Which I still don’t necessarily disagree with today… but here’s the thing.
When you are committed to become the person who runs a million dollar a year business, a ten million dollar a year business, you can’t be the same as you are right now.
I don’t think so, anyway.
The year was around 2015, which was around year 5-6 of being in this business and I grew it really really quickly.
I was crushing it by anyone’s measure.
And I was feeling ready to bust through the barrier that was my BEST $75K cash in month. I wanted to hit more than that!!!!
I remember making that and feeling so damn grateful and being so damn ready for MORE!!!!
I knew, though, that something needed to shift, because it didn’t seem to matter what I did, I couldn’t shift that income UP.
I would throw more money at ads.
I would do more webinars.
I TOTALLY got stuck into doing doing doing doing, searching for tactic after tactic. After all, the numbers should play out, right?
But they didn’t.
I couldn’t understand it.
I mean, what does one do when the tactics just don’t work? You have a look at your strategy. You work back up the chain, right?
So I looked at strategy and worked on that.
Nope.No change.
I worked back up to the plan. And that didn’t really need changing.
For months I circled and circled.
Don’t get me wrong, I know $75K/mth can be GREAT money….
But you know when you hit a plateau at the gym and you feel in your bones that you can go beyond what you’re doing but you just can’t seem to do it? This is how it felt.
I knew there was something else getting in my way.
So I learned how to step in.
I realised that perhaps the answer to the question of “Who do you need to be or become in order to get that next goal” was perhaps the key….
And it was.
I decided.
I became completely unapologetic about what I wanted, how I wanted it to be.
I sat down and wrote out WHO I was to become. How I would be. The person that was making more than that, what they’d be doing, the decisions they’d be making, the things they’d be saying, doing and being.
And I became that person.
I know for every level that I break through, this is about becoming more than ‘doing’…
So today I pose the question to you: Who do you need to be or become in order to get what you want?
Is it about being more BRAVE.
Being open to learning.
Taking more risks?
Being more open?
Stepping up more
Doing more
Doing less
Sharing more
Sharing less
Paring back
Stepping up
Shifting your beliefs
Changing your habits
Upgrading your standards
What needs to change and shift for you ?
The thing that I think about this: if you want something you’ve never had – or you don’t currently have – you may need to do something different or you need to be different.
There was a time there where Dom and I were nearly divorced. In fact, I was DONE. I was finished. I felt like I had been fighting a one sided fight for our relationship for a number of years and I honestly felt unheard.
It got to the point where I withdrew. I was done.
He caught on and finally said he’d do anything to stay together. To be honest, I said to him “Ship has sailed, babe”. But he fought for us. And I agreed to go to therapy.
Around the same time, I was learning about being 100% responsible for myself and my experiences and my reality.
I had to become a different person. I had to learn to be different. Now, I don’t mean my personality being different… but just learning and learning and implementing and trying.
Because if you’re not getting the result you want, you have to change your approach, right?
You can raise your standards. You can draw the line in the sand.
You can ‘do’ all of the things… but ultimately you need to become the person that you need to be, which more often than not, can mean getting out of your own damn way!!
For both of us, we each drew a line in the sand.
We decided that we wanted an EPIC relationship – one that was admired by others and by ourselves!!
That we were committed to being ‘better’ individually and together.
We worked out what we each wanted – #Unapologetically of course!!!!
And we did. And we are.
Every day getting better and better.
So for you… what do you need to draw in the line in the sand over?
How can YOU declare MORE? How can you be more unapologetic? How can you clear the path and get more and more clear on what you want?
And then do and be it?
The World is Ready For Your Brand of Awesome
Nicola
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