Hi. My name is Nicola and I am addicted to my business.
I have come to the realisation that I really DO have an addictive personality.
I AM IN LOVE with my business MOST DAYS…
And, I’ve often felt guilty for not having the same level of addiction to more ‘normal’ things…like cooking or cleaning or organising things…. (unless I’m procrastinating on doing something, then I’m an addict to THAT, too!)
I have 3 children, a successful business and my husband has the same!! hahaa! (funny about that, really!). When you’re in love with your business and your clients and what you’re creating, I have been known to become a ‘little’ one-eyed.
The thing is this.. it’s the little things that have made a HUGE difference for us in our lives, our family and our marriage.
#1 we go on dates. Yes. Might seem normal or boring or whatever..but for us, this has transformed our relationship. DO IT! We like to think that we’re pretty funny and daggy and therefore we tend to take photos of the daggy and funny things we do and post them on the internet. Don’t hate on me.
#2 Create the time for your other addictions to be fed, too!!! By this, I mean kids, going out for dinner, seeing your friends, getting to the gym, LAUGHING and feeling good, then FEED THE BEAST!!!! 🙂
#3 Let go of the need to control EVERYTHING!! You cannot, I repeat, cannot, control anyone else except yourself! So, stop fricking trying. It will save you a TON of time, energy and hassle. I promise. x
You cannot control how your inlaws treat you. You cannot control how your partner treats you. You cannot control ANYBODY except YOU and WHAT YOU MAKE THINGS MEAN!!
People typically are very reactionary without realising it. They’re reacting something that is completely outside of you. How people react /treat you or whatever, is based on THEM – NOT YOU!
It’s also NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS what others think of YOU or what you’re doing.
SO DANCE TO THE BEAT OF YOUR OWN DRUM, BABY!!!
#4 Create your own cheer squad of people who are there to CHEER YOU ON! Who are there to say “You’ve got this, babe” when you’re not ‘feeling it’.
You actually want to create a squad then a sub-squad! You want to have a mentor there taking pride and place, leading you, guiding you CHEERING for you – but who’s also prepared to tell you to zip it when you’re behaving like a loose cannon!
You then also want a sub-squad there who are there to uplift you and cheer you on. These are your people. Your tribe. Your peers.
#5 Remember to take stock of what’s important and then become addicted TO THAT.
#6 Dance and sing. A LOT. Like, a LOT! It releases endorphins and makes you SMILE like the BIGGEST DORK ON THE PLANET. And it’s FUN. If you’re incredibly brave, film that shit and put it out there!
#7 Give lots of love to lots of people. “Forgive people for they know not what they do”. Everyone’s doing the best they can. Let go of the shit, the anxiety, the stress, the worry and just let it go.
#8 Build your business around YOU and what YOU WANT.
Weave the fabric of your life together in a gorgeous quilty-wall-hanging…ok… perhaps not. But you get the point.
Different squares, different parts, different facets, different people, different feelings, different addictions!
BE ADDICTED TO YOUR BUSINESS…. but also be addicted to everything else that’s good for you.
N x
PS. If you need some help with your addiction, reach out! Find me on Facebook or give us a call and we’ll have a quick chat – 0421 068 272 and let you know if/how we can help you get this addiction WORKING FOR YOU rather than you working for IT!