All in, balls and all.

 

Doing business on your way is a tough gig, especially at the moment. But worse than that is feeling like you’ve got nobody to bounce ideas of. Nobody else gets it. And what if the people around you are all telling that you it’s okay to settle. It’s ‘just for now’.

 

What about your dreams?

 

Your goals?

 

Your desires?

 

The big things you want to do in the world?

 

Are you happy just letting your dreams go?

 

Here’s the deal, sugar lump.

 

It’s the culmination of many micro-actions and macro actions that build up and snowball that creates results.

 

You don’t just do one session at the gym and declare that you are now fit, healthy and can lift a zillion kg’s unassisted. You do multiple sessions, with a spotter, as you grow in strength and courage. You have someone there reminding you when you feel like you’ve hit your upper limit, that you can dig deeper, push harder and go harder than you ever have before.

 

But if you’re on your own…. Your self talk tends to get the better of you. Motivation wanes. Productivity wavers. Self doubt rises and as does the anxiety rising in a capillary reaction up from your stomach towards the base of your throat.

 

Until you’re frozen. Solid. Can’t move even if you want to.

 

You can try everything that usually works. Music. Water. Running. Punching. Kicking. Meditation (pfft. Not today, my friend. The constant whirr of the brain that doesn’t stop is far too loud for mediation today.). Sun. Coffee. Champagne. Valium. Journalling. Candles. Fighting. Making up. Playing with your make up. Marrying the cats. Cooking. Yes, some of these may be valid, but not really.

 

Enter the distractions: kids. Animals. Coffee. Music. Facebook endless scrolling.

 

How the heck do you get leverage over yourself to do the things that need to be done, when at the end of the day, you just can’t even motivate yourself to try?

 

The way I see it, you have three-four options:

 

1. Don’t do anything. Just let it all roll over you and decide that you’re not going to do anything about the situation
2. Start something that you do half assed, without any heart and soul and then lament at the half assed quality of the thing that you just produced
3. Decide that that’s enough now. You flick the switch, make the decision, give yourself a rev up and get your ass into action. This might work.
4. Decide that that’s enough now and you talk to a mentor who listens but then kicks your ass into gear, because they too understand what it is that you really want to build and how freaking important that is. Someone who will not buy into your own bullshit stories and excuses about why you can’t do something right now differently to what everyone else is buying into.

 

 

Every single successful person that I have worked with both as a client and as a mentor to, have one thing in common: they (we) all have a mentor who we trust, who we can talk about anything with, who we can rely on to hear us, see us in all our glory and then tell us to get the fuck over ourselves and do what we say we’re going to do.

 

You see, self doubt is insidious. It’s also a multiplier.

 

Procrastination is insidious and is also a multiplier.

 

The more you listen to self doubt, the bigger it gets.

 

The more you procrastinate, the more you procrastinate.

 

If you were to think about it, what often happens, is that these two are married and are close to inseparable.

 

=====> Self doubt + Procrastination = Paralysis <=====

 

And then you get the double multiplier effect. Most people, when they’re procrastinating don’t just out of the blue stop procrastinating. They tend to beat themselves up, yell at themselves either out loud or in their head. Get frustrated when someone tries to help, because ‘they don’t get it’.

 

You need the kryptonite to paralysis. A neutraliser. A game leveller.

 

It’s a two pronged solution:

 

=====> Alignment + Planning = Action <=====

 

Alignment is something that people tend to not think of as non-negotiable part of taking action, when in fact, it should be the first thing that someone does before getting into action. You see, when you’re in alignment, you will have clarity about what you’re going to do. You can plan for that. And then you get into action.

 

If you take action for the sake of taking action, it tends to be haphazard and more like a scattered gun in terms of results.

 

I have been there. I know that it’s annoying sometimes, to think that you have to do the #soulwork before you can get into action.

 

People, when under pressure tend to swing one of two ways: Over function or Under function.

The over functioners will come out swinging, so to speak. They’ll just keep doing, doing doing, looking for problems to solve (consciously and unconsciously) to fix and solve. They feel better by doing.

 

The under functioners tend to hide. They tend to not take action at all on their dreams and goals and ideas. They watch Netflix. They’ll stay in bed. They’ll stick their heads in the sand and just hope that somehow magically everything will just be fixed.

 

Many people swing between them both, but this, too, is not sustainable.

 

I remember a long time ago when things weren’t working for me and I was trying everything I knew how to do to get my ass into gear. I have a LOT of tools up sleeve. Some of them very solid and practical and some of them very “woo woo”. I would swing from trying all of the things to feeling like nothing was working and so I’d just stop for a while.

 

The thing that always saved me, no matter what, that I always 10000% of the time came back to, was my plan. I would get myself into a place where I was in the future version of me, imagining where I was in twelve months time acting as if everything had worked out for me, exactly the way that I wanted it to. I would then imagine what I needed to do in the more immediate future and then drag that towards me.

 

This is the alignment part of everything that is not negotiable for anyone who wants success.

 

From there, I would get into planning mode and create myself an action plan of exactly what I needed to do TODAY. What do I need to do TODAY.

 

I choose playlist on my Spotify that makes me move. That fires me up. That has me feeling like I CAN do what I want to do. That I CAN create what I want to create.

 

From that point, I get on Voxer or email or chat and talk to a mentor about how I’m feeling, what I’m doing. The power that comes from sharing with someone else that you’re getting back into the zone a bit more is crazy amazing.

 

 

The biggest mistake that I have made over the years is feeling like I’m alone. Thinking that I’m alone. That it’s just me. That everyone else has their shit together and that they’re all killing it.

 

That’s just self doubt, worry, stress and every other un-fucking-resourceful emotion and negative self talking monster that lives inside your (my) head.

 

I’m not alone.

 

You’re not alone.

 

And you don’t have to do this alone.

 

I’ve thought over the years about giving this away. Stopping. Worrying that this could be as good as it gets, no matter how happy and grateful that I am that I have what I have… what if this is as good as it gets…

 

Well, what if it is?

 

But what if it isn’t?

 

The future that you want to create requires you taking a different set of actions than the ones you took to get to here.

 

Every single success story I have ever heard does not happen over night. Even the ones that seem they’re overnight are not.

 

The truth of the matter is, that often, in order to get to where they are it takes ten years or more. Ten thousand hours multiplied by ten thousand more. The great thing about knowing that, though, is that you can piggy back of our backs and get there faster.

 

On the shoulders of giants, baby.

 

You deserve to “leave your footprints all over the world” (Thanks Tiësto).

 

You DESERVE a fucking amazing business .

 

You DESERVE amazing, inspiring, wise, badass, Rockstar, crazy, happy, fun, resourceful, awesome hot coal clients who work with you for ever.

 

You DESERVE to have long running programs and shorter ones.

 

You DESERVE to have adoring fans.

 

You DESERVE the attention – for the ‘right’ reasons.

 

You DESERVE the fame – in the way YOU want.

 

You DESERVE the big fucking stages (when we’re allowed to get back on them!).

 

You DESERVE the best selling book.

 

You DESERVE the notoriety.

 

You DESERVE to have millions of people following you.

 

You DESERVE IT ALL BECAUSE IT’S YOUR DIVINE RIGHT.

 

But you’ve got to take the actions to make that happen, or it will die.

 

Your dream will die.

 

Your ideas will die.

 

Your creativity around what you want to create will die.

 

The pathway to all of that being achieved will wither and die like an unwatered plant dies.

 

Starved of oxygen.

 

Starved of water.

 

Drooping first….

 

Then drying out….

 

Falling apart and eventually returning to the earth, where everyone forgets that there was even a plant there.

 

Don’t be like that.

 

 

 

In my not so humble opinion, you’ve GOT to go in balls and all!!

 

God has a plan for you.

 

Heaven has a plan for you.

 

Universe, source, the one…. A BIGGER PLAN for you.

 

Please, for the love of god don’t settle for anything less than extraordinary.

 

You deserve it.

 

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If you want some help with this, I have decided to open up applications to my mastermind “REBEL SQUAD” where you get me, 1:1. You get access to my high level client FB group.

 

It’s not a ‘get it up, get it in, don’t mess my hair do’ kind of thing, though. This would be you and me working together for at least the next 12 months. Taking you through the bullshit that is this stupid corona crap and onto the other side. (Don’t slay me. It IS crap when it impacts our businesses, which it has been).

 

We will get into alignment. We will plan. You will take action. You’ll talk to me every day if you need to, to get your ass moving. And shaking. But not in a jiggly kind of way it will def be in a ‘getting jiggy with it’ kind of way ;).  You get access to all of the things that I do live and recorded.

 

You will need to PM me or email me at nicola@149.28.177.172  We will talk back and forth in messenger and you’ll let me know what you want to do.

 

You need this if you want to drag that future to you.

 

You need this if you want to learn everything you possibly can right now, from someone who is already successful, someone who has a slew of successful clients both past and present.

 

What do you have to lose?

 

Well, if you do nothing, then nothing changes. Actually, that’s not true. If you do nothing, things get worse! So do SOMETHING even if it’s not with me.

 

Just get your ass into alignment and then into action.

 

Your future is waiting for you.

 

You can apply here or PM me  https://yr116.infusionsoft.app/app/form/rebelsquad2020

 

Love you.

 

You’re a badass.