It’s been really interesting for me and curious to witness the transition into having my face out there all over the internet over the years. At first, I was worried about my ex finding me (there’s a whole back story about that, that we just don’t need to go into today. Suffice to say it would have been problematic). I was worried about my family thinking I was totally self absorbed and egotistical…friends thinking the same… so I held back. A lot.

 

It felt back then like a giant leap of faith to really put myself out there.

 

In fact, it really took me until early 2012 (after being in business and kind of but not really putting myself out there) for me to declare a ‘fuck this shit’ moment and to just do it. I was a bit slow on the uptake.. I mean, I was putting myself out there but I was also holding ack.

 

Since then, I’ve been out there a LOT. Doing all of the things. From professional shots to my own photos, showing the different sides of my life knowing that this is something I tend to value when I’m following someone. I like the idea that I’ve got a bit of an idea about who and how they are as a human versus someone who’s spouting content all the time

 

I like to know things about people. I like to know if they have children. I like to know that they eat healthy. I like to know that they have a sense of humour and are funny. I mean heck. If they don’t like similar things to me, then can we even be friends?!?!?!?!! No. Look, I’m not talking about being friends friends, although, the people I buy from tend to become friends for a while.. and I like to become friends with my clients, too, if it’s the right fit. Sometimes it’s for a short while and sometimes longer. But the thing that connects us is shared values, shared lifestyle choices and shared likes/dislikes.

 

It’s funny….

 

I recently enrolled in a new program to learn some new skills (more on that another day, I’m sure). Primarily, I wanted to learn how to see myself differently…

 

To learn more about ME. To try to see myself through different eyes, because, well, if you think about it, we all tend to see ourselves in the way we’re used to seeing ourselves, right?!

 

R I G H T!!!!

 

In order to stretch and to learn, we have to do things differently… and so I decided to learn some new skills around self-photography. Ugh. It’s been a challenge. I can post images of myself on my page frequently without thinking twice about it… but the thought of posting in a group. Wow. I am fascinated by my brain and my thoughts and my fears, worries, anxieties.. I mean shit. W T A F!!? I’ve always known I don’t LIKE being the person in the room who doesn’t know stuff… but you know what. I’ve had to kick my own ass. A LOT!

 

The cool thing that’s happened is that because I am doing this, experiencing this, it’s helped me to tap back into how it feels for some of you who are broaching being more visible online and wanting to up the ante.

 

I mean, I’m asking you to go from not putting yourself out there to really putting yourself OUT THERE!!

 

For me, that old fear of posting photos in a group, with people I don’t know sparked something I haven’t probably haven’t felt in a long time. Like maybe 2 years, possibly more. Fear. Judgement. Feeling like a total wanker!!! All of it!

 

“HELLO EGO. Poor you, Nicola! You’re not perfect at something yet. You poor thing”.

 

Yep.

 

What happened to leading the way and walking your talk!?!?!

 

Yep. There it is
!

 

So I ‘bit the bullet’ and posted a photo (come on, I do it publicly all the time this should be ‘EASY’), and the photo was a selfie of Nicola who hails from goof-ville in a group that has proven to be verrrry supportive and open. No visible judgey pants anywhere!

 

It’s like the fear of worrying about what anyone thinks about me roe again.

 

WHHHHYYYYYY. This is crazy!

 

So it can be acknowledged. So it it can be dealt with. It came up, so that I can help YOU even more.

 

Because you know what?

 

Being VISIBLE can make you feel like you’re being exposed….

 

Well, you ARE going to be seen… but you’re not going to be, well, exposed.

 

It can feel like your peers may judge you .

 

Fuck ‘em. They might, but they’re not your clients, so there’s the door. BYE!

 

Some may share their passive aggressive opinion about what, why and how you’re doing your stuff.

 

Great. Cya!

 

Something for you to hold close is this:

 

If you’re not here to support me ASCEND to the next level and to support the human I’m growing into , then sorry. I’m not interested in entertaining conversation with you. If you are someone I’m paying to receive advice from, different story. But otherwise, zip. It.

 

You need to be vigilant about who you’re letting in your ear. You need to be vigilant about what you’re letting in your brain.

 

SHIT IN = SHIT OUT!

 

You can’t eat junk food every day and expect your body to be running at it’s optimum. Nope!

 

HIGH VIBE IN = HIGH VIBE OUT

 

Your body is a temple.

 

Your mind is a temple.

 

Your energy is sacred.

 

You have big goals to hit and dreams to achieve and people to inspire, you don’t have time for shenanigans!!!!

 

You know the saying “If your circle isn’t cheering you on, you need a new fucking circle”? I couldn’t agree more.

Because growth can be painful.

 

Change can be painful.

 

It can also be fun, amazing, easy, wonderful, expansive … if you choose it to be.

 

Who’s cheering you on, with your visibility and with what you’re doing?

 

Who’s teaching you?

 

Who’s reminding you that you’ve got this when you feel like a wanker for trying something that makes you feel uncomfortable?

 

I’d love to your person…

 

If you’ll let me.

 

To start with, let’s get together for a couple of days online and  let me pull the genius out of your brain and get it onto paper so that you can share  YOU with the world.

 

So that you can motivate, inspire and educate the people out there who really do need you.

 

You’ll have a plan. You’ll know how to implement. You’ll stand out. You’ll be visible.

 

You’ve just got to take that leap of faith, knowing all the while, that I’ve got your back.  

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