Time for some honesty.

 

How many times have you played down what you want? Kept the thoughts inside.. and then you see someone else with what you want… and you find yourself jealous. Envious. Cross. Sad… all those low vibe emotions swirl around in the vortex of grossness as you reel for a bit at the very obvious reality that you want what they’re having.

 

When was the last time you actually admitted to yourself what you want WITHOUT feeling guilty about it? Without feeling like you had to justify it? Without feeling like you had to ‘earn it’. Without feeling like you had to do more, be more, work more, give more…?

 

And what about the subject of ‘fair’?

 

I was thinking about this earlier today with how I want to feel in my relationships, my friendships, with my business and with my clients.

 

Let’s use the clients as an example. I will only work with people who are NICE. Not in a ‘boring’ nice way where they wear nice as a veneer and are fake nice. I mean NICE HUMANS. Like really nice humans. I will only work with people who have at least a little sass in them. They probably have a bit of streak of rebellion. They are attractive. (Yes, I said it). They are generous. The are gracious. They work freaking hard. They are ass kickers. They are fabulous. They are FUN and funny. The people I work with are people who are already helping people with what they do.

 

They are committed to working in and fuelling their mission. They are committed to implementation. They are committed to themselves and their passion and living their purpose. They are in a service based business. They are primarily women. They are TOTAL badasses… even if they haven’t all realised it yet.

 

They want to make fucktons of money. They know this is reflective of the number of people they’ve helped.

 

They want to lead hundreds, thousands, tens of thousands, MILLIONS of people.

They want to do it THEIR way though. They want the fame because they KNOW that they can USE THAT as a force for good. They want the impact. They want the influence. They want to help as many freaking people as they can. *Note The ‘fame’ thing can be on a local level, a state level, a national level or even an international level. It doesn’t necessarily mean tabloid level fame!!! Aint’ nobody got time for that!! Hahhaa!

 

Is this FAIR?

 

Is this FAIR do you think…. When we both know that I can help ANYONE on the face of the planet pull stuff out of their heads and make money from it?

 

Do you think it’s FAIR to the people who don’t fit the above parameters?

Frankly, it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks is fair… these are the humans that I want to work with and who I can create the fastest, most amazing impact with so they can go out there and do their thang.

 

Is it FAIR to want it all?

 

The word ‘fair’ conjures up the ASSUMPTION that someone else is going to miss out. That all won’t benefit from it.

 

But here’s the thing: by being so super freaking clear and unapologetic about what you WANT… it makes it super easy for that to be brought into your world. And in the case of the client example, it means that the people who don’t fit the parameters can very quickly find THEIR people who are going to help them.

 

So yes. Being SPECIFIC is most certainly freaking fair.

 

When it comes to relationships, is it ‘fair’ to want it all? To want to be loved, feel loved, be shown love? Is it fair that you want to be put first, chosen first, and honoured first? Does this mean that the other person in the relationship misses out? HELL NO!!! (Unless you’re a bitch and then karma is probably going to whip your ass!).

 

We have been conditioned to play down what we want because it alludes that someone else is going to miss out.

 

Maybe they will. Maybe they won’t.

 

I mean… think about it:

 

YOU WANT TO WIN.

 

You want to be the best.

 

You want to be seen as an expert.

 

If you’re running a 100m race. Do you want to come second? Or third? Or last? Fuck no. You want to win. You want to cross that finish line FIRST.

 

Nobody gets into a competition like that feeling like they need to be ‘fair’ to the other contestants so that they can all be happy.

 

NO.

 

You want to win.

 

And you have to stop feeling ashamed of that.l

 

You have to stop negotiating on what you want.

 

You have to stop playing down your desires.

 

 

OWN IT.

 

Own them.

 

Get clear on what they are and don’t be afraid to talk about them.

 

 

You never know…. You might just say it enough times, so enough people hear it and you just never know who’s listening and who can help you create and get what you want.

 

 

No more settling for anything less than what you want.

 

 

Oh. The other thing I wanted to say about this, too, is this: you don’t need to justify your desires for what you want, either.

 

If you want Chanel, you want Chanel. If you want a Landcruiser, you want a Landcruiser. If you want to own an island, awesome.

 

If you want to live off grid, great. If you want to live with 50 possessions or less, go for it. If you want to leave the smallest footprint on this planet that you can, then amazing!

 

Each to their own.

 

We need to stop judging what anyone else wants.

 

We need to stop judging what we want.

 

We need to be really freaking honest about all of these things, because it’s in the talking about this stuff (with yourself, with your journal, with your partners, with your mentors, with your friends or your therapist) that you create the space and the freedom to finally start creating authentically and honestly what you want.

 

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