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Love the hard work

Love the hard work

High vibey vibes….

Have you ever had days where you’re flying high one minute. Almost drunk on the feelings of flow, creativity and service…. To then find yourself wondering what happened to those feelings?

I know, for me, I get such a thrill out of delivering (free stuff and paid) that the come down SUCKS.

I have been running LIVE events for years and years. Travelling all over the country and internationally to run them. And the ONE thing they all have in common, is that when they’re done, the following day I tend to get a bit melancholy.

Why do we feel like this following the good days? The amazing days? The days where we feel like we’re doing EXACTLY what we’re born for?

I guess, for me, upon looking back at it, at the end of a high-energy, high-impact delivery day (and sometimes delivery session) I am in bed super early. Hello room service, pyjamas by 5pm and chill time. I need to defrag.

What I’ve learned over the years is that there are a couple of reasons that I feel like this.

One being that I give every little piece of me during these sessions and days. The energetic output is huge for me. Not so much for my brain although that’s a thing, too… more so the energy that is transferred to the people in the room (physical or virtual rooms are the same).

You’ve felt it, right? When you are in the flow zone, and things are going so damn well. You feel like you can do it for weeks and weeks on end. And maybe sometimes you do… but then there comes a point where you have to stop, because you can’t keep giving all of that energy out at the expense of yourself.

The second is that I know I’m actually an ambivert. I am naturally both an extrovert and find it easy to operate at a high energy level. But, I am also an introvert. I need time alone. I need to have space. I need to have time to defrag.

It’s quite funny to me and to those who don’t know me well. Because, I can be in a room all day long with people, head to dinner, but then hit The Wall. The wall of being DONE and it’s almost like a light switch is flicked, and I have to get out asap.

The downside to this, however particularly when I’m travelling is that when I’ve had enough of myself, I need to people again and often there are not people around for peopleing!!!! It’s a dance between the extrovert and the introvert.

It’s also the dance between what fuels you.

I’m in the midst of delivering a program right now called Unpack Your Genius (you’ve probably seen me talk about) and man oh man, I have been SO MUCH in flow with this program. The marketing. The positioning. Everything about it has felt easy and effortless! It’s a dream.

At the end of one of the sessions I went straight into a free delivery call.. so there were about 2 hours of online delivery non stop and normally this wouldn’t phase me, but man oh man I was exhausted following it.

There’s a bit of a saying ‘out there’ that if you’re doing the work you love, you don’t work a day in your life.

That’s total horseshit! Of course, your work will feel like work some days. It doesn’t mean you don’t love!

LOVE THE HARD WORK.

When you’re fuelled by passion and purpose and you’re truly doing the work you love, the hard work feels great.

It’s a bit like going to do the gym, right? Or pushing yourself to work out at home.

I had a procedure about 5 weeks ago and my body is still recovering…and I haven’t been cleared to go back to the gym yet to do the full work outs I’d normally do, but I’ve been cleared to do lower body work. Phew. Oh my god.

The first couple of weeks all I did was not much of anything except walk! And slowly. From there, I’ve been able to build up my energy to getting more into the band work outs here at home. I cannot WAIT to be cleared to go back to full weight training.

Weight training is hard! It takes every ounce of concentration and focuses to do what you need to do…. But I LOVE it!

I love the payoff. I love the result. I love the burn. I LOVE the ‘hard’ work. In actual fact, I reckon it’s easier to go heavier and harder than it is to go easier. It’s weird, I know. But I also know that it’s for a finite period of time. I push for an hour and then I’m done. I may not be able to walk easily out of the gym or my arms might find it hard to hold a mug…. But I push and I push hard and I love it!

This translates similarly into the work I do in my work. I love to go hard.

But then I need the rest and the time to recuperate.

I used to think that in order to be ‘successful’ I would have to hustle all the time. That I had to put in endless days, coaching hours and hours back to back. Making sales calls back to back. Doing doing doing doing doing.

I remember wondering how on earth the ‘successful people’ used to fit it all in. I didn’t realise at the time how they had teams behind them – at a huge expense.

From what they said and what they told, they were focussed solely on hustle hustle grind and hustle day in, day out, 25 hours per day, 8 days a week.

It led me to face burnout. It led me to be so busy I forgot who I was – almost. Yes, I was still doing the work I loved to do, but not in the way I wanted to do it.

It wasn’t pretty, but it did have me taking a long hard look at myself!!!!

I had to work out how to get the best out of myself…. Which meant I had to get to know myself. I know this might sound a little weird..after all, I have known me for my whole life.

I always identified myself as someone who was an extrovert. Chatty. Peopley. Fun loving. But then would need to spend time recovering alone or at least quietly the next day. When I learned about how ambiverts are, it felt like a whole layer of myself was now visible to me and I was astonished at how relevant it was to me.

I know now, that after a fun filled intense delivery I am going to feel a bit tired.

I know, that after running an event, I need a day to myself to recover. I don’t travel home. I tend to book in a massage and sleep in. But I also know that by the time the afternoon of that recovery day kicks in, I’ve often had enough of being on my own and will find a way to connect with the people who are important to me.

I know that after a good interview, I am high as a kite! I tend to feel pumped and excited…and ridiculously wired. I also know that I need a bit of defrag time following it!

The more you know yourself, the more you can leverage your energy, your personality, your strengths and your TOTAL BADASSERY! Yes, it’s a thing!

What about you? How do you handle this?

The World Is Ready For Your Brand of Awesome,

Nic x

The NICOLA MORAS SHOW

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The NICOLA MORAS SHOW

Action packed podcast featuring 'The coffee run live'