It was a fascinating day to be stepping out! I was grinning at nearly all the people on my walk this morning, getting interesting looks, half smiles and some just darn right ignoring me! Fascinating!! It’s curious how some people react to different things and how interesting people are. #humans.

 

I wonder what prompts so many to avert their eyes. I know I do at different times, too. Eye contact and then avert. Look down. Stop the connection. I’m curious about this. I know I do it at home, too. It almost feels like a weird protection thing, where what if someone looks in my eyes and then doesn’t look away!!!!

 

So as I’m writing this I’m at a coffee shop feeling weird and exposed. It’s another layer of thinking about what others might think and how that got me all wound up! Again, I have done SO much work on this that it kind of struck me as WEIRD that this would even be raised today.

 

I’m sitting at a bar-like bench outlooking the window and the whole café is behind me. All the people are behind me. All the conversation is behind me and my only view unless I do a ‘death becomes her’ and swivel my whole body around, is out the window in front of me.

 

I’m sitting in here in my short walking shorts that I normally wear. My work out top (tight) that I often wear. Fabulous sneakers (naturally!)… oh the hilarity!!!! Everyone else in here today is dressed very much more ‘proper’.. there’s a real estate networking thing happening at the same time, the volume is escalating and it’s ALL HAPPENING! I am feeling particularly out of place.

 

Whilst I generally don’t even give 2 hoots about what anyone else thinks of me, sitting in this café today brought up a whole layer of interesting insecurity.

 

Takes me back to the same feeling sitting in the school bus on the way home from school.

I was never The Cool Kid or in The Cool Group. It didn’t bother me too much. I loved my friends and how we fit in at school…. But I always felt like I was the odd one out of our group. I was the third wheel… They all lived in a more -accessible-to-each-other proximity in a totally different direction to me and shared the train rides and the bus rides into school. Jokes and stories that I felt like I was left out of for the most part. They were amazing. They did not one thing to make me feel like this. It was like missing the joke and then having someone need to explain it to you except that I felt like that most days. #NotACoolKid

 

In high school I remember catching the bus and hanging out with another one my friends who did actually live near me. We were always on the late bus together. Throughout the day we hung out in our respective friendship groups but generally not together except on the way to school and after school while waiting for the bus.

 

We’d catch the late bus home and the older girls from school would take the back seat of the bus and do things to my friends’ hair now and again. Not all the time. But really mean nasty stuff. Like tying food into her hair or dead flies. Her hair was super thick and super long. I’d tell her to move her hair. It was awful. I was always on high alert myself, though, cause I knew that given half the chance, I’d likely end up with shit in my hair too. Or things stuck to my back. Constantly on edge and aware of what was happening yet feeling powerless  to do freaking anything about it.

 

Another day I remember getting home from school with blood on the back of my skirt after getting off the bus. A blue, sky blue skirt…with a red patch on the back. Mortified. This led me to be always on the alert for wardrobe malfunctions, worrying about what others might see/think/be laughing at. Ugh!!!

 

I guess, because of this experience (this one came to mind today, anyhow), I hate having my back to the majority of the room of people behind me. It’s not about controlling the room or being in a power st6ance, but more a deep seated conditioning that people be talking about me, laughing at me or making fun of me.

 

Ugh! Who would have thought sitting in here, in my fave Redondo coffee shop that THIS would come up?

 

But how does this relate to YOU?

 

The way I choose to be is to be aware of this shit as it comes up, clear it and let it the fuck go!!!

 

I’m writing this right now, in between people I don’t know *GASP* hahhahaha! With my back to the entire room and I’m reframing it all with this work, this message, this blog…. Choosing to believe that this message is more important than me worrying/thinking about what anyone else freaking things!!

 

I mean seriously, girl!! If you can do all the things you do, you can get the fuck over yourself!

 

These people here are just as self absorbed as you are, and dude! That’s a GREAT thing.

 

Think about it: if you can be sooo self absorbed.. then chances are everyone else is in their own heads worrying SOLELY about themselves.  (And their real estate networking, trying to build and make conversations and connections. I turned around and some of them are looking notably uncomfortable!). #winning So to remember, that not one other person is even thinking about you is EMPOWERING in this situation!!

 

Now. Online, we want the opposite, right? We want all the people looking and watching us!

 

We want them viewing…

 

So where is the resolution? Because you can’t want to be invisible and stand out..well, you can WANT it, but it’s not going to produce results, right?

 

Because there’ll be a push pull dynamic where you’ll be pulling people to you and yet at the same time pushing them away. And that’s not going to work, babes, if you want to actually get to where you want to be. Nup.

 

In order to be visible ewe need to heal and let go and clear any and all desire for public invisibility. If you’re going to be VISIBLE online, you’ve also got to be prepared to be visible offline. It’s critical, crucial and necessary.

 

So how do we do that?

 

Confidence. Audience. Action .

 

This is what Wake up and shake up your shit is all about. Confidence. And the biggest creator of confidence is purpose. If you can find – uncover – what your purpose is, it’s going to help you hone your confidence.

 

When you clear any old BS fears, stories, fairy tales and nightmares, the world lifts and unfolds to meet you.

 

When you them know how to create confidence, which is internal certainty, internal conviction to internal KNOWING of the truth…

 

You start recognising that you’re amazing, brilliant, insightful, fabulous, kind, creative, badass, explosive, generous, giving, next level, high frequency, magnetic, passionate, fucking awesome, amazing, smart, intelligent, welcoming…

 

When you remember THIS and you remember that there are a bunch of people who need what you’ve got – whatever that is – it creates MORE confidence.

 

Confidence grows when it’s nurtured. Confidence grow with perspective. Confidence creates the space for you to fucking who you are. Confidence creates momentum.

 

Purpose + Confidence = Changing the world. When we add in purpose, purpose is the thing you do that will be The People or The Animals. The Greater Good.

 

Confidence + Audience = absolute moment. When we then add action, you become a force to be reckoned with.

 

The mean girls aren’t going to EVER put flies in your hair again.

 

People in the back of the room are looking at you for two reasons:

 

• Admiring you and your absolute badassery for doing what you do and how you did it. They were grateful to even be able to squeeze into the room to be a part of your presence.
• Not even looking or thinking bout you at all.

 

How awesome is THAT?

 

There was no one paying any attention to me whatsoever that I knew of in the coffee shop. Noone was laughing at me behind my back. They were all absorbed in their own stuff and things. And you know what? If they were, fuck ‘em! I’m not there for them. I’m not put on this earth to help them wake up and get their heads out of their ass.

 

I’m here to help YOU, my friends. TO. HELP. YOU.

To let you know that if I ever hear of anyone being mean to you, tying flies in your hair or anything other than raving about your fabulousness… I’ll kick their motherfucking ass for you!!!!

 

Join wake up and shake up your shit right now. We start next week.

 

The biggest thing that you will get out of this program is the confidence to chase down your dreams and make them happen. You’ll have a ton of fun. It will be challenging, naturally! Cuase with challenge we create growth (not just the 5am calls!! Which is a very respectable 11am LA time!).

 

We’re going to get SUPER CRYSTAL clear on your purpose. We’re going to fill you up with confidence. And then you’re going to gettum!

 

Love you! I can’t wait to start working together.

 

You’re awesome.

 

And the world is fucking ready for YOU.

 

Nic

 

Wake up and shake up your shit is a 21 day deep dive immersion into YOU. Your purpose. Your why. Your confidence creating Your action plan. Your motivations. All of it. So that you can do what you’re here to do… so that you get to leave the legacy that you know you want to leave. That you were born to leave. So that you can work the magic that is inside of you EVERY SINGLE FREAKING day. This has a flow on to your body, your health, your family and your friends – not to mention, obviously, the people that you work with either in your career or your business.

 

I’m reknowned for being the gracious asskicker! I’ll help you get out of your own way and then support you to bring it to life.

 

What more could you possibly need right now? www.nicolamoras.com.au/wakeup