You know the movie sliding doors? The one where there was like 2 alternate realities and outcomes depending on what way Gwenyth Paltrow went?
THIS is THAT moment. Kind of like a choose your own adventure.
I wanted to take a moment to paint 2 pictures for you.
[CUE THE BACKSTORY]
There’s this woman, a woman I know well. She’s fighting tooth and nail every single day for what she wants. For the future that she wants. For the life she wants. For the SUCCESS & the BUSINESS she wants.
She’s afraid that the business that she’s built from scratch won’t grow any bigger than what it is right now.
She’s tired.
She’s busy.
In a way, she wears these like badges of pride. And that’s okay for a short while, but she doesn’t want it to continue.
She’s been looking for a better way in the little time that she does have.
She’s been scouring Facebook, looking around, hanging around the edges trying to work out what she’s doing wrong.
She sees all the other ‘successful’ coaches and mentors out there going GREAT GUNS and she KNOWS that she’s DAMN GOOD at what SHE does. In fact. She KNOWS for certain that she’s the BEST at EXACTLY what she does for people.
So scratches her head sometimes in wonderment and asks herself “why am I continuously going around and around the roundabout of $100k-$150k per year? What’s wrong with ME?” Some months are a bit more, but no matter what she does, she keeps coming back to the ‘normal’ average month.
She’s FRUSTRATED. She’s cross. She’s annoyed. She LOVES her business almost more than anything else. She loves her clients. She loves what she does for people. BUT… she wants MORE.
Her friends and family are asking her why she can’t just be happy with what she has. When those words are uttered she wants to punch them in the nose but refrains with a strained smile. The words that her people say to her are generally meant as support but to her, it sounds like they’re losing the faith and belief in her that she’s going to do things in the BIG WAY she’s been talking about for the past couple of years.
She KNOWS that the way she’s operating RIGHT NOW is UNsustainable.
She knows there’s going to come a breaking point.
Things are strained at home. She’s not spending the TIME she wants with her children. Her relationship with her husband is tense. He supports her COMPLETELY but he’s also asking her when things are going to LIFT. He’s also doing it to be encouraging, but she hears judgement.
And so she starts to beat herself up again and do what she does best.
Gets some more 1:1 clients. Fills up her diary. Creates the busiest day possible because THAT IS WHAT SHE KNOWS how to do.
She WANTS International Exposure. She WANTS to work less (you know, like maybe 35-40 hours per week instead of 100). She WANTS to help more people reach the breakthroughs that she KNOWS inside out. She WANTS to have guest speaking invitations. Get invited to conferences. She wants to BE KNOWN…. not for the sake of FAME, but for the IMPACT that she’ll be able to have on THEIR LIVES.
She’s reverted back to living on coffee and adrenalin – like she did when she first started. She’s in the constant loop of push. She’s running on the smell of an oily rag and rag is almost out of oil, baby.
SHE KNOWS SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE
AND SHE WILL NOT GIVE UP
So, what to do?
There’s 2 choices. Red Door. Yellow Door.
If she goes through the red door, she’s made the clear choice to keep on trucking. Keep going. Don’t stop. Just keep doing what you’re doing and something will give. Something’s gotta give and it will be ok.
Zoom through the future 12 months from now….
She remembers that day, 12 months ago when she stepped through the RED DOOR. Looking back, there was till a lot of hard slog. There were offers of help but she didn’t take any of them up. She continued how she was going. But things got worse. She started to sabotage herself more without fully realising what she was doing. She got stuck in the loop of over-delivering to clients at the expense of herself. And that, as we know, isn’t sustainable.
She had a bit of a ‘moment’ there, where she fell to the floor because of the time and the energy that she was putting into her business.
There was nothing that ‘gave’ – remember…she was hoping that something was going to give but it didn’t. Her relationships are worse. The strain and stress and pressure that she’s put herself under because she was trying to keep her shiz together on her own has had a massive negative impact on her health, her relationships, her mindset, her life, her kids and her lifestyle. But she’s still making $100k, so she ‘should be happy’, right?
[But What If……]
Camera zooms back to the 2 doors:
What if we give her the choice to step through the YELLOW door.
If she goes through the yellow door, everything can change.
When she steps through the yellow door she makes the choice to take her future into her own hands and do something DIFFERENT.
She takes a long hard look at what she HAS been doing and DECIDES, then and there that things WILL be different. THEY ARE different.
She’s has a ‘recalibration’ moment where she realises that she CAN be, do and have everything that she WANTS.
She changes her business model. She changes her life. She makes adjustments to her communication, her relationships the way she is with her clients and the world seems like a very different place. Well. She is.
Zoom through the future 12 months from now….
She’s standing on stage. Looking out the crowd of people in front of her. Overwhelmed at what she’s been able to create and do.
She sees the sea of faces all looking up at her with absolute admiration and adoration. These people LOVE HER. They’re her clients. Her family. Her friends. Her COMMUNITY. Her mentors. Her peers.
She’s made such a massive difference to the world in such a short period of time and she’s PINCHING HERSELF that this is her life!
What SPECIFICALLY has she achieved?
Well. She got off the money merry-go-round and has just cracked HALF A MILLION DOLLARS in turnover. She KNOWS beyond a shadow of a doubt that she’ll double it again next year.
She’s completely transformed the relationship with her husband. In fact. They’re deeper and more madly in love than EVER before. Like crazy madly deeply goo-goo love! The BEST kind.
She’s had a huge impact on her children. They’re happier than ever and things are looking GOOD.
They’ve moved into a new house, with a new, BIG office for her so that she can contain her mess.
She has her ‘support crew’ to help her around the house. The moments of guilt around having someone help her are SO eleven months ago!!!!!
She has her ‘support crew’ to help her around the house. The moments of guilt around having someone help her are SO eleven months ago!!!!!
She’s got more clients than ever BUT… she has MORE TIME on her hands than ever before.
She’s NOT stressed. She’s FIERCELY GROUNDED.
She’s NOT manic. She’s ALIGNED.
She’s NOT grasping at everything and running herself ragged. She’s CALM.
She can FINALLY plan. She has CLARITY. She has the support of people around her.
She has people who BELIEVE in her.
She’s MORE than doubled her income with really some quite ‘small’ tweaks. Those are the best kind though, right? The tweaks that make all difference AS SOON AS YOU KNOW WHAT THEY ARE!
She’s CHANGING the world.
She’s making GOOD MONEY.
She’s having a HUGE IMPACT.
And she’s HAPPIER, she’s FEELING SUCCESSFUL. She’s excited about what’s coming.
[SUDDENLY THE CAMERA COMES BACK TO THE PRESENT]
We see her back at her desk in her squishy office. Hunched over the keyboard trying desperatley to get her content up on social media.
You can FEEL the guilt and the stress coming through the screen and into your body.
You can FEEL her frustration. You can SEE IT, plain as day.
You know that you can do something to help this woman….
BECAUSE SHE DOESN’T KNOW ABOUT THE DOORS……….
What are YOU going to do to help her?
Because I suspect…if you’ve read this far…this woman is YOU.
I know this, because THIS WAS ME.
This was my clients BEFORE they came to work with me.
This was MY LIFE.
I very nearly IGNORANTLY destroyed everything that I had been creating because I didn’t REALISE just how INSIDIOUS this work-a-holicism was. I didn’t REALISE that I had created my OWN glass ceiling. I needed a wake up call and thank goodness it happened.
You can get out from underneath it if you choose to.
RED DOOR?
YELLOW DOOR?
The choice is yours.
If YOU choose the RED DOOR, then I wish the best of luck. There’s no need to subscribe or ask for my help. Which is really very heartbreaking for me, because I know what’s on the other side.
HOWEVER…
If YOU CHOOSE THE YELLOW DOOR, then PLEASE…. call my office on 0421 068 272 and say that this is a YELLOW DOOR EMERGENCY or email me nicola@149.28.177.172 with YELLOW DOOR in the subject line and your BEST PHONE number in the body of the email. But ONLY if you’re ready. Well, I know you’ll never REALLY be ‘ready’…but you need to be as ready as you’ll ever be.
You’ll have a chat with either myself or one of my coaches. We’ll see how and if we can help you to STEP INTO YOUR POWER as a coach and mentor.
AFTER ALL….. If you WANT your CLIENTS to do it…you’ve GOT to lead the way, right?
I look forward to TRANSFORMING your life, your business and your heart.
XO