This morning I was wasting time (as if that’s not triggering enough when I realise what the heck I’m doing mindlessly….) scrolling through Facebook and I saw a post that triggered me. It was kind of curious.

I do my utmost to be gracious and kind and yet, as evolved as I am apparently I’m still human – gah! Some people just rub me up the wrong way.

Then, not even 5 minutes later, BAM! There was another post by someone else and yep. You guessed it. Triggered. Not in a violent, “I’m going to throw my entire wrath of the world and all it’s injustices upon you” type of trigger. Just straight out, old fashioned annoyance.

It was enough to get my attention.

And so I grabbed out my faithful journal and started writing about it.

I was thinking about all the people who trigger me in my world at the moment, and I have to be honest, there’s really not that many. I’m getting so much better at curating my world and the humans who reside in it even on social media. And there was someone else that came into my awareness as I was pondering it all… and it got me thinking more and more.

In my journal I asked myself literally “So, why do they active you, Nicola?” (I have this way of asking myself the question as if I’m someone else. Usually the ‘someone else’ is the Universe or God or the kickass future version of me). And this came out.

Is it about feeling not good enough around them? No. Not that. Definite no. So why am I pissed off? Ok. There it is!!!! These particular people don’t do ‘business’ in the way that I believe that business should be done – from a deep rooted place of integrity in all dealings.

The thing that shits me to tears is when people are saying one thing and doing another.

So I explored it further.

“But why does that affect you, really, Nicola?” to which I replied:

Well it doesn’t… however, I believe in open and honest communication. If you want something, you’ll do it. If you don’t, then don’t. Just don’t play games and be clear and honest about it. Be authentic. Do the right thing by people. Don’t sell something and then not deliver on it.

So it doesn’t actually affect ME today… but it did in the past, where this occurred for me personally.

Where does this play out? This saying one thing and doing another?”

I explored if there was something in this for me, where I might be out of integrity or out of alignment or operating out of authenticity.

I explored business, health, relationships, money, spirituality. And came up with nope, I’m all good…

What it comes down to me, is operating in integrity and being a values match.

These people who activate me/trigger me I believe are operating outside of how I believe someone with integrity should operate. (Noting that they might feel like they’re operating in integrity, which is why this ONLY affects me and never them. This is all my shit!!!)

And this is where I get infuriated with the injustice of someone charging ridiculsou amounts of money and then not delivering.

I get angry on behalf of the people that pay for stuff and get shortchanged.

I get frustrated when I know that what I do, my philosophy, my way of doing things is fucking better by a country mile and I’ve had people in the past question my value…

NO FUCKING MORE!!

I am only available to people who act and operate in business and in life in a way that is in line with the way I see integrity.

And then I let it go

But not before I made the decision to be use my sharp sword of discernment and spent some time removing and hiding people that I don’t want in my field or my awareness on a regular basis.

And then it was done!

The steps that I went through to clear this were (and the steps I normally go through to work through things that come up):

• Write about it. Get it out of my head without any judgement. Just purge it on out
• Do some inquiry on it. Is there anything here that I need to resolve? Why did this come up?
• Is this something that I am doing in my own life that I need to stop, change, align or address?
• Clear that out in need
• Then, cut energetic cords to the original trigger and thought as well as the people
• Do some energy work to clear that completely
• Check in and see if there’s anything else that needs resolving around that
• What’s the message that needs to be shared about this matter?

And here we are!

So things that activate us or trigger us can really be a blessing to shed yet another layer of sludge and gunk within us that we totally forgot was even there.

Cultivate the space that you WANT to live in – physically and energetically as well as in the 3D and digitally.

Nicola

Keep your eyes open for my latest Program that is pure soul filled aligned action goodness! I’ll let you know more about it over the coming days, but rest assured it’s pretty freaking EPIC.